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Jul 06, 2014 at 12:00 AM

Walking Away from Anger

By Rev. Carla Schiratis

The weather is warm and humid outside. I’ve just arrived home from a wonderful morning of church and celebration. My herb garden is waiting for me. The warm sun has set off a frenzy of growth and the herbs are now covering up the lettuce. I sit down on the edge of the flagstone planter in order to trim back some the new growth. The air is filled with the scent of crushed herbs as I watch the bees stir among the tarragon flowers.

I begin to think about my next blog topic, “How do you walk away from anger?” Feeling so content in this moment it is hard to imagine that we do get angry from time to time. Anger often arises suddenly; it can even catch us off guard. There’s a rude person in front of you at the cash register, a driver refusing to let you merge over in traffic, a co-worker taking all the credit for your hard work and then a flush of heat runs up the back of your neck and you erupt. So how do we walk away from those times of anger?

Anger is simply a feeling or unresolved emotions that rise up from deeper underlying past experiences. Whenever we feel anger, we can remind ourselves to be compassionate, both with ourselves and with others. With compassion we can tone down the anger. When a driver cuts me off I remind myself of all the people that I must have mindlessly cut off unintentional. Perhaps that person in line at the grocery market is just having a difficult day, after all haven’t we all had our difficult days. The best part about anger is that it is often short lived. Anger gives us a glimpse of what is under the surface in our consciousness. I remember something Dr. Wayne Dryer said once, “When you squeeze an orange what do you get? Orange juice. If someone squeezed you, what would you get?” Think about it, would you feel anger, irritation, impatience, resentment? Anger gives us the opportunity to look at what’s inside of us? It is then that we can have a clear idea of what to pray for, what to meditate on, and what to get back into Principle with. The goal here is knowing that someday if you were squeezed hard like an orange, all anyone would get is the essence of God’s Love. Perhaps we can all find that love in God’s garden of truth.

Posted in Good Grief.